Sonnet 89 by Pablo Neruda "When I die"

Words written to his wife in the event of his death.

When I die, I want your hands on my eyes:
I want the light and wheat of your beloved hands
to pass their freshness over me once more:
I want to feel the softness that changed my destiny.

I want you to live while I wait for you, asleep.
I want your ears still to hear the wind, I want you
to sniff the sea's aroma that we loved together,
to continue to walk on the sand we walk on.

I want what I love to continue to live,
and you whom I love and sang above everything else
to continue to flourish, full-flowered:

so that you can reach everything my love directs you to.
so that my shadow can travel along in your hair,
so that everything can learn the reason for my song.

(Original in Spanish)
Cuando yo muera quiero tus manos en mis ojos:
quiero la luz y el trigo de tus manos amadas
pasar una vez más sobre mí su frescura:
sentir la suavidad que cambió mi destino.

Quiero que vivas mientras yo, dormido, te espero,
quiero que tus oídos sigan oyendo el viento,
que huelas el aroma del mar que amamos juntos
y que sigas pisando la arena que pisamos.

Quiero que lo que amo siga vivo
y a ti te amé y canté sobre todas las cosas,
por eso sigue tú floreciendo, florida,

para que alcances todo lo que mi amor te ordena.
para que se pasee mi sombra por tu pelo,
para que así conozcan la razón de mi canto.

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Spiritual Companionship

Spiritual Companionship offers safe, honest communication, where we are met with compassionate listening and questioning as we navigate life’s challenges, grief, anger and trauma. We are guided to “empty our cup” and seek an improved expression of Truth & Love.

Private sessions with a Spiritual Companion are a means to rediscover our virtues the spiritual qualities - we possess within: Love, Hope, Peace, Trust, Restorative Justice, Joy, Contentment and more.

About Graceful Mournings

We offer personalized services for memorials, celebration of life ceremonies and grief support during many of life’s transitions: loss of a loved one, health, pets, work, and relationships.

We are an independent nonsectarian association of Interfaith Ministers and Celebrants, providing support to people of all cultures and beliefs, by offering services promoting peace, hope, optimism and health.

For more information please review the website. You may contact a spiritual companion in your area to discuss schedules and fees for sessions.

About Lucinda

Lucinda is an ordained, Interfaith Minister, offering Spiritual Coaching & Companionship sessions based upon spiritual principles. She is a workshop facilitator, and founder of, Wedding Officiants and, an association of professional Interfaith/Interspiritual Celebrants.

Lucinda is not a therapist and does not provide counseling services.

Spiritual Coaching Sessions

Coaching sessions provide an opportunity to explore a variety of skills or techniques to promote emotional healing and rediscovery of one’s true purpose, sometimes called “authentic self”.

Some topics in our session might include:

  • How to “Honor Spirit”:We explore a variety of ways to promote daily reflection, stillness, meditation & reverence.
  • Positive Communication:We learn how to replace shaming and blaming with personal responsibility and respect. Developing a language of spiritual qualities that inspires and encourages self and others becomes a loving way to deepen our relationships.
  • Healthy Boundaries: With regard for restorative justice, and reparation we learn how to co-exist with others, peacefully. We replace the tendency to “argue, separate, alienate or divide” by creating well-defined boundaries to protect our time, health and energy, in a respectful way.
  • Forgiveness:We all make “learnings” (mistakes) and with spiritual companionship & coaching we recognize the opportunities for personal growth, forgiveness, and renewal of commitment for personal excellence. We develop greater self-confidence with humility – a willingness to learn, free of self-judgment.

Please contact Lucinda Martin to schedule a Complimentary one hour session.

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Lucinda Martin on KSRO's Aging Matters

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Lucinda Martin was recently interviewed by KSRO’s Robert Nations of the Aging Matters Show. Click on the podcast to hear her discuss Vows & Kisses, Graceful Mournings and the spiritual companioning and counseling provided by her Associates. The show ends as her calm, warm voice guides listeners into a deep breathing exercise that can be used for stress relief and meditation. Enjoy!

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